Getting Good Feedback
July 11th, 2007I used to hate getting feedback. I would interpret all feedback (no matter how trivial) as fatal character flaws that were going to stymie my career and relegate me to an entry level position for the rest of my life. Like many, I was a bit too hard on myself. Over the past few years I have grown to appreciate feedback, particularly informal feedback, as a means of bettering myself in the workplace. However, it was only when I became a supervisor this past year that I really began to understand feedback and its crucial role as a communication tool for relationship management at work.
Everyone makes mistakes. It’s just a fact of life. Talk to any senior official and he/she will tell you of the disastrous mistake made earlier in his/her career. The key to rising above these mistakes is to learn from them. Sometimes, you learn from a mistake by recognizing it. Other times, you may not even know that you made a mistake and need a peer or boss to point it out. Cultivating a relationship with your superior where mistakes are identified in a helpful not accusatory manner can be the building block to a successful career.
It should be noted that feedback is not just about pointing out mistakes. Sometimes, feedback is about managing expectations. For example, you may think that precision of arrival time for meetings and work is not that important at work. Your boss, however, might have different expectations. These mismatched expectations can create unnecessary tension at work. Creating relationships at work where honesty is valued can have huge impacts on your success and happiness at work.
Developing these honest relationships is not easy. People often would rather ignore an issue than talk about it. Thus, it is important to develop ways to get feedback from superiors, colleagues, etc. about how you are perceived by the rest of the world. I have found that the best way to give and get feedback is not in our annual performance reviews. It is better to start an informal conversation with your boss/colleague/employee and just ask him/her how things are working for them. Ask him/her if there was anything that you could do to make things easier for him/her or that he/she would rather you do. Keep it low-key. Talk about whether you think you have enough interaction or if they would like to change something about how you are communicating currently. Also, ask for feedback on a regular basis. I am not suggesting asking for feedback every week or even every month, but it should be done at least every three months. People tend to want to give feedback at the end of things (such as a year, performance review cycle, project, etc.). By this point, it is way too late. It would have been more helpful to get feedback earlier in the process, which will save you and your co-workers from months of irritation.
But, remember, when you ask for feedback…you are going to get it. So, be prepared!
Kate Walker
Young Government Leaders
www.youngovernmentleaders.org